Just Worry About Yourself
Why is that so hard to do?
Photo credit: WTHR/Joe Fenton
I spent this past Saturday knee-deep in glitter, pink and purple hair, rainbows adorned in every way imaginable, and pure joy emanating from men and women from all walks of life.
I participated in my first Pride celebration in Indianapolis, Indiana in support of my gay adult son.
And it was simply beautiful.
I was stunned by the outpouring of support of thousands of people as we made our way down Mass Ave, finally planting ourselves in front of Tini Bar — my son’s favorite hangout on the weekends. This is a day when the LGBTQ+ community can be themselves — TRULY be themselves — and I loved everything about it. I admit, this mom had tears in her eyes as I felt and heard the jubilation from individuals who get hit again and again with every conceivable setback as they maneuver their way through minefields of hatred and ignorance. But you wouldn’t know it that day.
I say it all the time — there shouldn’t be a need to celebrate Pride though I’m grateful that we do. But why in this day and age do we still feel the need to single them out? I long for a time when we only worry about the one person we have control over…ourselves. Why should it matter who other people love or date? Does it truly affect you? No. It does not. Do you care what kind of art other people hang on their walls in their homes? What they eat for dinner? Probably not. Do you care what books others read? Again, probably not (unless you’re a meddling politician). My point is this: what the fuck does it matter anyway? They aren’t hurting anyone!!
We are all created in the image of our Creator who had one concept in mind: love. He/she didn’t create us to share minds or thoughts. Instead, we were gifted with an individuality that will never match another’s as long as there’s an earth. Isn’t that mind-blowing? There is so much to learn, love, and experience in our own lives that we shouldn’t have the time or the inclination to worry about what others are doing with theirs. I’ll never understand it. I can’t tell you how many times I have spoken these words to family members of mine: “what difference does it make to you? Just worry about yourself.”
I just don’t see what the big deal is. I never have.
Fear is the only factor that finds the ugly in those who do not understand. Fear has been driven into our minds from our society to keep those who are different right where they want them — isolated. Fear has been turned into a weapon by those with power and money.
And it needs to stop.
We have come to the fork in the road where it’s time for ordinary, everyday people to stand up to those in power. It’s time to use our voices and shout that we will no longer believe their lies. It’s time to remember who we are and why we’re here. Money doesn’t make someone better than us. Power doesn’t make someone more important. Putting people on a pedestal is not what we were created to do. Cowering to those considered more influential than us is not why we were put on this earth. We all have minds, opinions, and ideas and when we put them all together and listen to one another we all win.
Damn, I make it sound too easy, right? Well, it should be.
Differences are beautiful. It’s what makes everyone so special. If we were all the same it would be one boring existence.
Let’s just mind our own business and let those love who they love.
Really — it makes not one difference to you.