Are You Man Enough?
It’s time to come forward
I recently came across a post on Facebook regarding a letter to the editor written by a male mechanical engineering student. The letter is addressed to the female students in his program and basically lists all the reasons why they are not his equals: he hadn’t been discouraged from studying hard science, he never lived in a society that discouraged him from exhibiting his leadership skills, he wasn’t bombarded by being told his true worth was a direct correlation with how he looked/dressed, he had never been overlooked by a teacher because of his gender, and when he becomes successful everyone will know that he truly earned it. So, in short, he gave kudos to the women for all the bullshit they’ve had to endure while clawing their way through a difficult program, acknowledging that the men had it much easier.
Nothing new to read there. It’s always been that way.
But my initial reaction to that post was this: where are all the brave men? Where are all the men who say they support their wives, their daughters, their sisters? It really got me thinking. I’m married to a man who always agrees with me when I point out the wrong-doings of men or my frustrations of living in a tipped-scale, gender-biased world and how I’m so unbelievably fed up that I still have to point out such things in 2022!! He’s so gracious and understanding and supportive. He nods his head in agreement. He listens with patience. So, I think I’m married to one of the greats. But am I? Because what is he doing to show his support? Nothing except listening.
Listening is passive. Listening doesn’t get us anywhere. It might make us feel better in the moment but it doesn’t change a damn thing.
Here’s the thing — men are scared to voice their opinions. Even the good guys. Because then they have to contend with the backlash, the controversy. The pussy-whipped, hen-pecked, pants-wearing jokes. Am I right? Because what if their friend/relative/boss heard them being so woke and supportive of those whiney-ass feminists? It’s not worth it to them to fend off such male-driven ego energy.
Look — I know there are a ton of men out there who agree with how women are treated as second-class citizens still but I gotta be honest when I say I don’t hear or see from them much — even in my own home. You need to really dig for the ones who are shouting it from the rooftops that this patriarchy needs to crumble for the good of our entire universe. Many men recognize the fact that everyone benefits when we mesh our positive traits together — the yin yang, the divine feminine with the divine masculine. Men possess great skills in logic, structure, cognition, and action while women bring intuition, emotion, receptibility, and fluidity to the table. You combine all of these traits in any given situation and I guarantee that a solution to anything will be accomplished in record time without all the power struggles and hurt feelings. It’s a win-win, folks.
So, if we can’t even get the men who understand and agree with us to help us with our fight how in the hell are we supposed to reach the narrow-minded misogynists? You see the problem here? Women have never given up the fight — have never given up the argument for their case but they could use a bit of man’s support in the voice department. If you can’t speak it, write it.
It’s time for brave men to step forward and not give a f**k about what other men might think.
We don’t need men to fight our battles.
But we do need them to be heard. They should be just as outraged as their partners, daughters, and sisters as to the inequalities that still exist today. It’s outrageous and it deserves an outrageous response.
My challenge to all you good and decent men who say you support women 100%?
Let’s see a little bit of that action that’s considered one of your great traits.
F**cking use your voice, men!
Instead of plugging my own book, I want to bring your attention to another one: Man Enough by Justin Baldoni. I truly believe he’s helping to change the narrative one man at a time. Kudos to you, Mr. Baldoni…you get it.